How do you deal with unsolicited babymaking advice? I know people mean well (most of the time) but gosh darn it do they not think how their words might effect you?
I do not like to talk about the fact that i'm trying to have a baby or that I have been trying for almost a year. When letting people know they think it's okay to give you advice. You get people checking up on your status and it's really annoying to have them constantly ask, "Are you pregnant yet?" I just want to go through this process without any input from outsiders unless I specifically ask for it. Now is that too hard?
This weekend I was hanging with my cousin and her boyfriend's friends/family. One of the women there was pregnant and my cousin blurted out that I was trying to have a baby in front of everyone. I cringed inside and tried not to let the slip of the tongue bother me. I honestly do not want to discuss this with strangers and was kind of upset that she blurted my business in front of people I did not know.
She also mentioned to us how she was going to do this and that, and have sex a certain way and eat these specific foods to ensure she have a boy when she tries to get pregnant. I just kind of stood there and stared at her. I didn't have words. Later on when her friend started asking me questions about me trying to get pregnant my cousin blurted that she hoped she was next and then me. I whipped around to face her and said, "You next?? You mean me next THEN you." Oops, there went me trying to keep my mouth shut!
Oh and don't let me forget to share this little gem from my cousin (a different one) who was "only trying to help". I swear you get the stupidest advice from people who know nothing of what it takes to have a baby AND are male. He said to me, "Why don't you just get drunk the both of you and go at it. It'll just happen. That's how my friend said he got his girl knocked up."
Oh really? Yeah.. not so much the way I want to get pregnant. Thanks though!